Luke has taken to whining or crying when hubby and I are talking to one another and he is not participating in the conversation. This is most apparent while in the car, since we're often both in the front and he's in the back. It got so bad today that we had to stop that car, shuffle things around, and have me sit in the back to hold his hand.
I do not condone this behavior, however, I have a really hard time dealing with his crying, especially in a confined space. Often when he cries, I say "Oh yes, I know. Mommy's so mean!" or something to that effect. However, the point of this is to get him to stop crying and entertain himself, which I stop by talking to him. It's hard to justify letting him cry because I know he's lonely without one of us there (all it takes is holding his hand to calm him down), but he also needs to learn that his parents don't need to be around for him to feel secure.
It sucks. I feel caught between a rock and a hard place.
I think security develops later as a result of knowing your parents have always been there for you. Just my opinion. :-)
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